What’s up with hole-stretching and why are some people into that? — Dear Ena, I connected with someone who said he’s into stretching a partner’s holes with Sharpie markers and it kinda weirded me out. What’s up with that? And why Sharpies? Best, Julia Dear Julia, thank you so much for this question which transports me back to the beginning of my…

Hint: It’s never ever their fault — Some life lessons are learned in one go, allowing us to move forward without repeating our mistakes. Others take a few tries before they stick. Learning to spot and avoid narcissists has been one of the latter for me. After living through a decade-long relationship with a narc, preceded by…

All of my sexy pieces in one place — In the words of my favorite erotica writer Anais Nin: “We write to taste life twice, in the moment and in retrospect.” And what better part to relive than our sex lives? I do love writing about sex and sexuality, but it wasn’t until I sat down to complete this…

A full collection of my writings on narcissistic abuse; what it is, how to identify it, and how to deal with it, during and after — Over the last year, I’ve written many stories about my experiences in a relationship with a verbally abusive narcissist, as well as my process of healing and dealing with the aftermath. Through this process, I’ve connected with many who share similar experiences, in search of resources to make sense of…

Manageable milestones to help you reach your sexiest goals — Do you still have points on your sexual bucket list for 2023 that you haven’t fulfilled? Now’s the time to start! Or perhaps you’re already setting your goals for the new year? Here are some tips on how to make those fantasies a reality. …

And why being groomed for the task can make butt sex more enjoyable… — The anal sphincter is a moody muscle. Strong and highly sensitive, it can smell our fears like a guard dog. If it picks up the slightest tension in our bodies, it will clench up like a clam. That said, in order to enjoy anal play, one needs to be calm…

Exploring the thriving genre of porn referred to as JOI (Jerk off Instructions) — Baby, tonight I’m in charge, and you’re gonna do exactly what I tell you. Alright? Soon, I’m going to ask you to stroke that throbbing cock of yours, just for me. And later, you’re going to cum, so fucking hard — but NOT until I tell you to. Got it? …

A scheduling conflict turns into an opportunity for introductions… and for an MFM fantasy to be realized — A firm knock on my front door pulls me out of a comatose slumber. It’s Sunday morning, midsummer, and the bright light through my tall altbau windows offends my heavy eyes. …

How taking back responsibility and control over my reality allowed me to let go of the burden of victimhood — It was my first boyfriend’s father, an avid hiker and wildlife enthusiast, who taught me how to identify safe drinking water in the mountains. He taught me that while glaciers may look pristine, they house layers upon layers of accumulated dreck and pollution. Other times, bacteria, worms, and other pathogens…