Our work as sex educators and pleasure activists has the power to ignite change far beyond people’s bedrooms — Isn’t that a sex thing? asked a high school friend when I showed her pictures from a recent Shibari performance. — You don’t have sex on stage, do you? she continued before I had a chance to respond. — No, no, it is an erotic art form, but that doesn’t…

Welcome to my world on Medium, and beyond — Hi there! First, I want to thank you so much for being here—I appreciate you immensely. About me I’ve been a storyteller of sorts my whole life. Starting as a graphic designer, I moved into creative/art direction, set dressing, event styling, and more. Writing was something I occasionally did, mostly by default…

All of my sexy pieces in one place — In the words of my favorite erotica writer Anais Nin: “We write to taste life twice, in the moment and in retrospect.” And what better part to relive than our sex-lives? I do love writing about sex and sexuality, but it wasn’t until I sat down to complete this list…

A full collection of my writings on narcissistic abuse; what it is, how to identify it, and how to deal with it, during and after — Over the last year, I’ve written many stories about my experiences in a relationship with a verbally abusive narcissist, as well as my process of healing and dealing with the aftermath. Through this process, I’ve connected with many who share similar experiences, in search of resources to make sense of…

A scheduling conflict turns into an opportunity for introductions… and for an MFM fantasy to be realized — A firm knock on my front door pulls me out of a comatose slumber. It’s Sunday morning, midsummer, and the bright light through my tall altbau windows offends my heavy eyes. …

How taking back responsibility and control over my reality allowed me to let go of the burden of victimhood — It was my first boyfriend’s father, an avid hiker and wildlife enthusiast, who taught me how to identify safe drinking water in the mountains. He taught me that while glaciers may look pristine, they house layers upon layers of accumulated dreck and pollution. Other times, bacteria, worms, and other pathogens…

Finally, my German broadcasting license fee is going towards something I’ll actually watch — If you live in Germany, you can’t escape the obligatory monthly 18 euro license fee that every household must contribute to finance the public broadcasting services. (Trust me, I’ve tried and it backfired). If you’re anything like me, and the hordes of other no-TV or radio-owning ex-pats who consume between…

About the women who were attacked and killed for saying no to men—and why I won’t shut up about this. — It was just a simple question, you can just say no. If you’re so paranoid why do you even leave home? Back story When I wrote my essay in November, about the man who asked to skip the condom on the first date, I didn’t expect it to inspire a whole series…