Ena Dahl

Pondering the erotic, the difference between the visual and the cerebral, and what it means to be ‘sexy’

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When these words came out of my (now ex-) husband’s mouth, was when I realized that he has absolutely no idea what sexy means — never did, and probably never will.

He slung the line back at me during our last argument as a couple; one where we both laid out all the hurt and pain we’d experienced over the years together.

— I didn’t really feel seen by you, I told him, and I don’t think you ever recognized me as a sexual being. …

Regular Newsletter | Updated 27.01.2021

Welcome to my world on Medium, and beyond

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Photo of the author by Negrorojoluz

Hi there! First, I want to thank you so much for being here—I appreciate you immensely.

About me

I’ve been a storyteller of sorts my whole life. Starting as a graphic designer, I moved into creative/art direction, set dressing, event styling, and more. Writing was something I occasionally did, mostly by default, as I handled the content of clients, propositioned for gigs, and ran a design blog.

It was first in October 2019 that I decided to start writing full time. Before that, a growing voice inside had been pleading with me to write since I left a toxic relationship with a…

All of my sexy pieces in one place

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Photo: Directed by author / Photography and edit by Jay S Laffat

In the words of my favorite erotica writer Anais Nin: “We write to taste life twice, in the moment and in retrospect.” And what better part to relive than our sex-lives?

I do love writing about sex and sexuality, but it wasn’t until I sat down to complete this list that I realized just how many stories I’ve published on the topic since I started here in October 2019: N̶i̶n̶e̶t̶y̶-̶n̶i̶n̶e̶ one-hundred-and-eight so far (updated 11.02.21)!

I write about sexuality, not just for my own enjoyment, but because I believe it’s important. I believe we must normalize having an open, honest…

A full collection of my writings on narcissistic abuse; what it is, how to identify it, and how to deal with it, during and after

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Eileen Pan via Unsplash

Over the last year, I’ve written many stories about my experiences in a relationship with a verbally abusive narcissist, as well as my process of healing and dealing with the aftermath.

Through this process, I’ve connected with many who share similar experiences, in search of resources to make sense of their own situations. The stories I’ve written on this topic continue to be some of my most read and it’s clear to me that this kind of content is sought after.

For those looking to read more—to make sense of, heal and move on from a toxic, abusive, and/or narcissistic…

The full range of temperature play, how to do it, and what to look out for

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cottonbro via Pexels (cropped by author)

Fire and Ice was the first poem I was tasked to recite from memory in my high school English literature class, and to this day it’s etched into the fibers of my brain. Robert Frost was right though; there aren’t many elements more powerful than the two, all though, I know them to have uses far beyond destruction. How about a bit of titillation? Or a dash of shock and surprise, followed by a soothing touch? And, why not oscillate between the two, from hot to cold and back again? …

Literotica Teaser

The story of Anna continues; a young woman in Berlin in search of something — her identity, her sexuality, or both

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Cover photo by Ian May

Oh my god, I’m so excited: My second erotica book, Next Level is available now on Berlinable, the Berlin-based erotica publisher whose mission is to change the world through passionate literature.

This isn’t a completely new story, instead, it’s years in the making, from when I first told a much shorter version at the sexy storytelling competition, Smut Slam in January 2018—and won! (#humblebrag). I later published two related short stories here on Medium that has now been taken down. This new, extended, and super juicy version, is over 5k words long and full of sensual yet explicit sexy-action. …

Delay gratification to blow her mind—and double the reward

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Photo by cottonbro from Pexels

Don’t we all just love raw, untamed, animalistic lust, unleashed; to be held down, rendered breathless, yet panting all at once? To be taken, with such passion, it almost looks violent. They must have you! Right now! There is NO holding back!


Few things are hotter than unbridled desire; being wanted so badly by your lover that they simply can’t constrain themselves.

There is one thing though… namely bridled desire or self-restraint: To be wanted so badly by your lover they can barely constrain themselves, but, they choose to anyway; not letting any of you have it. …


SPNKD’s rope teacher ‘Dimebag’ on his journey; how he got stuck and later untangled, and how ropes have tied him and his wife closer together

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Dimebag & his wife. ©SPNKD

He’s practiced Shibari for over seven years, but still feels like he’s only scratching the surface: “There’s so much more to discover,” says SPNKD’s rope teacher Dimebag, who ties almost exclusively with his wife. In a scene, where most practitioners tie with multiple partners and seem to value novelty, he’s truly a dime in a dozen with his focused approach—always in search of greater depth.

Let’s start from scratch; what attracted you to ropes and how did you get into it?

It started after my wife and I decided we wanted to discover BDSM. We first visited an erotic fair…

You can’t have one without the other

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I open up for you. I welcome you in. I want you.
I have prepared for you—for us—for me. Come closer!

I’m in charge for now. I’ll be your host, so let go as I usher you in: Pull you, grab you, squeeze you. And, when you get close, I slide onto you; wrap myself around you.

As we move together can you feel me clamp onto you? How I nuzzle and brace you? Pull you, envelope, cloak, and cradle you? Do you sense my gentle clutches? The tugs and nudges, the more forceful squeezes? Look at how I lift

Ena Dahl

Multidimensional creatrix & muse seeking to unite sexuality & spirituality, instigate alchemical healing & ignite the wild (wo)man | enadahl.com

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