Ena Dahl

Dear Ena,

I want to connect with fellow artists but I don’t know where to start…

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Attracting people into your life is not ‘really’ about magic and witchcraft, but it doesn’t hurt to think of yourself as a wizard | Aron Visuals via Unsplash

I experience a fair amount of (what I refer to as) synchronicities on a regular basis—and, when in a flow-state, they often happen one after the other. Because it can feel like pure magic, I’ve said out loud, I have no idea how this keeps happening, but the very events and people I crave seem to stumble across my doorstep at exactly the right time.


Understanding ‘post-play drop’ in BDSM and what causes it

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© SPNKD

The photo I posted was a selfie showing me soaking in the tub, pouting with a visibly bruised bottom lip and nipples, yearning for someone or something to help me out of my misery. That’s likely why I posted the picture too; I had no one to give me aftercare and was doing everything I could to self-soothe. Yelling out into the social media void in hopes of receiving something backperhaps a few comforting words, a bit of sympathy, hugs (even if virtual), or at the very least a bit of attention—anything to distract me and make me feel less desolate. …


Newsletter

Welcome to my world on Medium, and beyond

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Photo of the author by Negrorojoluz

About me

I’ve been a storyteller of sorts my whole life. Starting as a graphic designer, I moved into creative/art direction, set dressing, event styling, and more. Writing was something I occasionally did, mostly by default, as I handled the content of clients, propositioned for gigs, and ran a design blog.

It was first in October last year that I decided to start writing full time. Before that, a growing voice inside had been pleading with me to write since I left a toxic relationship with a narcissist two years prior; I felt like I was bubbling over with things to say. …


All of my sexy pieces in one place

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Photo: Directed by author / Photography and edit by Jay S Laffat

I do love writing about sex and sexuality, but it wasn’t until I sat down to complete this list that I realized just how many stories I’ve published on the topic since I started here in October 2019: Ninety-nine so far!

I write about sexuality, not just for my own enjoyment, but because I believe it’s important. I believe we must normalize having an open, honest, and candid discourse around something that, despite being the most normal thing in the world—we’re all here because of it—is still such an uncomfortable, taboo topic for many. I believe in the importance of women and females speaking LOUDLY about sex. While precaution and safety are essential components of good sex education, I want to see more conversation about pleasure, why we should expect it, and why sex is good for us! …


A full collection of my writings on narcissistic abuse; what it is, how to identify it, and how to deal with it, during and after

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Eileen Pan via Unsplash

Through this process, I’ve connected with many who share similar experiences, in search of resources to make sense of their own situations. The stories I’ve written on this topic continue to be some of my most read and it’s clear to me that this kind of content is sought after.

For those looking to read more—to make sense of, heal and move on from a toxic, abusive, and/or narcissistic relationship—I decided to put all of them together in one place to make them easier to find. …


Twenty lustrous gems that brightened my twenty-twenty

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Photo of me by PolluxBerlin

Still, in the face of this year’s obvious lack of sex appeal, I’m blessed to be able to look at many tantalizing moments along the way. It’s with immense gratitude that I’ve compiled this list of the gems that illuminated this otherwise gloomy year (in order of appearance).

1. A trip to Paris

Nicknamed the city of love—and of lights—this was the first big highlight. I’ve never been taken on a trip for my birthday, ever, and though my lofty plans to have sex in some outrageous place (like the Louvre) didn’t happen—after realizing that it would surely land us in jail—simply being there was sexy as hell! …


Riggers and rope models share what Shibari means to them

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Photo: Jay S. Laffat | Rigger: Rope Unleashed | Model: Sonja

Do rope tops feel the same kind of euphoric catharsis as bottoms, or do they have another type of experience entirely?

The answer my rigger sent back to my questions touched me so deeply it inspired me to seek answers from other rope lovers too; what attracts them to Shibari, and how do they experience tying or being tied?


How I experience being bound and suspended in ropes

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Photo: Negrorojoluz / Rigger: Alex (Unkown Rigger)

For those who haven’t experienced it, the contradiction is apparent while looking at a body all bundled up constricted; in which way could that feel liberating?

Contemplating the apparent fallacy, I realized that this is only one of many found in the realms of shibari and bondage. In this mundus inversus, discomfort can turn to ecstasy, physical compression to mental expansion, and surrender to transcendence. …


I removed my copper Intrauterine Device (IUD) and it cured my recurring Bacterial Vaginosis (BV) in an instant

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Ava Sol via Unsplash

If you battle with recurring or chronic BV and you also use an IUD for contraception, read on: The two are very likely connected, and several studies suggest the same (see a list of resources below at the bottom). …


Why I won’t let ‘just anyone’ into my most sacred of spaces…

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Yohann LIBOT via Unsplash

Sex, in general, is as physically intimate as you can get with another person, and, to me, anal sex is the most intimate of all. While our bumholes have been given all sorts of disgraceful nicknames and euphemisms, the only one I’d use from this linked list is mystery-zone: “Behold the inner sanctum. …

About

Ena Dahl

Multidimensional creatrix & muse seeking to unite sexuality & spirituality, instigate alchemical healing & ignite the wild (wo)man | enadahl.com

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