Well, I’d say that anger is a major obstacle to human connection in general ——and connection is needed in order to experience pleasure together (sure, we can technically orgasm without connection, but it’s not the same).
I’m curious though, do you read this article as “revindicating”? Because that’s not how I feel about it, and definitely not what I tried to convey. It’s also not the feeling I get from most people/women.
But, the orgasm gap is a real thing—I know that from experience and from the multiple other women I’ve talked to, and it’s like that for many reasons… (I won’t repeat the arguments from my article.) But I’m/we’re not talking about it from a place of anger, but rather from a solution-oriented mindset. It’s not about framing and blaming… no one’s like: “Fuck you, now give me all the goddamn orgasms I’ve missed out on!”. It’s all about opening communication and healing—together!
Shame, blame, anger, resentment, guilt; all of these negative emotions stand in the way of transcending together sexually!