The Narcissism Files
A full collection of my writings on narcissistic abuse; what it is, how to identify it, and how to deal with it, during and after
Over the last year, I’ve written many stories about my experiences in a relationship with a verbally abusive narcissist, as well as my process of healing and dealing with the aftermath.
Through this process, I’ve connected with many who share similar experiences, in search of resources to make sense of their own situations. The stories I’ve written on this topic continue to be some of my most read and it’s clear to me that this kind of content is sought after.
For those looking to read more—to make sense of, heal and move on from a toxic, abusive, and/or narcissistic relationship—I decided to put all of them together in one place to make them easier to find. I’ll continue to update and add to this collection as I publish more.
A huge thanks to Fearless She Wrote Editorial Team for supporting by creating a space for so many of these stories—you’ve been absolutely invaluable to this process.
Identifying verbal abuse
The Worst (and Last) Thing The Narcissist Said to Me
The straw that broke the camels back: It wasn’t when he told me that he hates me.
Are All His Exes Crazy? Chances Are, You’ll Be Next…
The harmful ‘crazy ex-girlfriend’ trope and the myth of female hysteria
Understanding the narcissist
The Weird Ways of The Abusive Narcissist
How to identify the ingredients in the ‘crazy-making soup’
Fear and Loathing, the Constant State of the Narcissist
How the narcissist is ruled by—and rule with—fear
Trauma Bonding Is the Drug That Makes Abuse Feel Like Love
Under the influence of the narcissist
The Irresistible Allure of the Abusive Narcissist
The reasons you were swayed — and why you stayed
This Is Why the Narcissist Picked You
They chose you for your strengths, not your weaknesses
Your Narcissist Loves You—Like a Laptop
Why you’re little more than an accessory to a narcissist
After the narcissist
How To Stop Attracting Narcissists
What to look out for in order not to repeat the same mistakes
Why Are You a Supercharged Magnet After Dating the Narcissist?
Understanding our patterns, energy, and boundaries when dating again
Falling Out of Love With a Narcissist
How to let go of the fantasy image of a dream that never was
How to ‘Grey-Rock’ The Narcissist
The powerful (non-)communication tool to gain your power back
Dear New Girlfriend of My Abuser
I hope my narcissistic ex isn’t treating you how they did me—and if they do, know that I’m here for you.
Cheating on My Ex Saved My Life
Seeing a glimpse of love outside my abusive marriage gave me the courage to leave
Should I Stop Protecting My Abuser With My Pseudonym?
What happens if I break free and stop caring who finds out?
To all of you out there finding yourself in these relationships, please take care of yourself!
I will always lean on the side of “get out as soon as you can, and while you still can”…but I know it’s not always that easy, and it may take years to even realize what’s going on. You’re not alone in this and there is help out there. Please talk to people and reach for assistance from friends, family, health- and mental health professionals. Seek legal aid, law enforcement, or contact your local help-line whenever needed. Don’t wait to take action!
Remember that you’re strong, you’re beautiful, you’re worthy and you’re loved.
I wish you joy, courage, and healing on your path ahead!