Thank you for taking the time to read and respond, and I appreciate your interpretation here.
As always, there’s more to a story then what you’re able to convey in writing. But, yes, in hindsight, I’ve learned and I coulda–woulda–shoulda stopped it the first two times when my requests were ignored. Sometimes, we’re in the moment, and we’re caught in the heat, etc, and I gave him the benefit of the doubt.
What I don’t mention in the story is that the guy did write and apologize the next day and that I did clue him into what ‘went wrong’. I still wasn’t interested in meeting again, but I did learn to be even more clear after this, and I believe he learned a few things too :)
No, the guy was at least 6 years my senior (number-wise). I’ve had lovers ten years his junior who are decades ahead sexually though, so I’m not sure age always plays as big of a role as we tend to think…