Thank you for sharing! I just wrote an article with a similar topic ‘Is Abuse Ever Subjective?’, after having several conversations where people suggest that the abuser isn’t abusing on purpose. ‘They probably don’t even realize what they’re doing’ etc…

These conversations not only rub me the wrong way, but the further I process my past relationship, and learn about the experiences of others, the more I see how this couldn’t be further from the truth. The narcissist is fully aware and their abuse is not coincidental.

Great piece!