I was just tagged in this game by Yael Wolfe, and it sounded more fun than finishing the article I planned on posting tonight, so my ‘Be Better in Bed’ piece will have to wait until tomorrow morning:
If you were a wild animal, what would you be and why?
Who says I’m not (rawr! haha).
I’ve been feeling a deep kinship with lions in the last few years. I feel like a lioness in many ways and relate to their body language; how they move and interact with each other. I admire their independence, fierceness, loyalty, and strength. Lionesses stay together and bravely defend each other and their cubs from danger.
Further, I have a special tie to the Goddess Inanna who was referred to as ‘Labbatu’ which translates as ‘Lioness’; she’s often depicted flanked by two lions.
Who is your favorite writer? (Not counting fellow Medium writers!)
Many, but I always come back to Anaïs Nin. She was a wild woman, uninhibited and untamed, and I can think of few I’d rather have over for dinner and wine.
And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.
I found and held onto this quote from her when I was in the process of leaving my narcissistic ex, and it became one of my mantras during that time. Ever since, I’ve found her words profoundly relatable, no matter what I’m going through.
What’s your favorite holiday and why?
I don’t place a lot of emphasis on holidays, all though I like that they (sometimes) make us take time to relax and come together. But, mostly, I find them, and especially Christmas, stressful and laden with expectations.
I prefer Spring Equinox (Easter). I love this time of year; when day and night are equal, and everything rewakens and starts buzzing.
What’s the most daring thing you ever did?
Hmmm, it’s hard to choose as I’m generally quite daring, and have been since childhood. I feel more scared of the mundane than unusual.
I’ve written extensively about some of them here: Apart from a handful of sexual adventures, like the time I posed nude for an artist on our first date, my bravest moments were leaving my abusive husband after having an affair with a woman and then nosediving into reclaiming my sexual sovereignty, while trying to master life as a freelance creative and single mother.
I’ll continue to quote Anaïs Nin:
Ordinary life does not interest me. I seek only the high moments. I am in accord with the surrealists, searching for the marvelous.
Do you have any tattoos? If so, please share details…
I have a small one on my right ankle that I got it on a trip to the Canary Islands with my highschool boyfriend.
It was our last night and we’d been contemplating getting tattoos because they were so cheap there compared to home. An hour before closing, I drew a small line-drawing of a fish on a napkin and ran down to the beachside tattoo shop and got it done for 15$.
He and I got engaged on that trip. He took me on a hot air balloon trip before he proposed to me on one knee, with a gold ring, on the beach—the most textbook and romantic proposal I could imagine, at the tender age of 18.
It didn’t last, but he was my first real boyfriend, first lover and someone I’ll always cherish. He’s a Pisces, so my little tattoo will always remind me of him and our six years together.
What do you think is the most interesting thing about you?
Jeez, Yael, your questions are hard!
I’m not sure if I come across as interesting to a lot of people, but when I meet people I connect with and find interesting as well, and I open up, I might be interesting because I’m very interested in you! I’m a keen listener and empath, and I don’t do small-talk. I always get straight to the nitty-gritty.
Other than that, I refuse to adhere to my limitations. I’m adventurous, outspoken and a bit rebellious.
What would people be surprised to know about you?
I express myself more proficiently—and feel more like ‘myself’—in English, which is my third language after Norwegian and sign language.
I’m working on honing my skills as a sexual and sensual energy healer after realizing that I can see and remove blockages.
Did you achieve your dream career (or some version of it)?
I’m lucky in that I’ve always worked for myself, but I’ve long been uninspired by my freelance design work. I’ve been dreaming of writing more for a few years—it felt almost like a calling—but didn’t view it as a real option until recently. I decided I want to focus predominantly on writing about a month and a half ago, so I’m work-work-working on it!
What’s your sign?
If you mean star sign, my sun sign is Capricorn. I relate more and more to my rising sign, Scorpio and my moon sign, Aquarius.
Other than that, I see signs everywhere and I love to nerd out on numerology. The number 17 is insistently ubiquitous in my life, along with the number 8 and 11.
If you could say anything to a past or current lover, what would it be?
To all of you, the good, the bad, the ugly and the wonderful—you all taught me something valuable, for better or for worse, and for that I’m grateful.
My questions to you
I’m passing on these questions and would love to hear from the wonderful people and writers tagged below:
- What are you afraid of?
- Why do you write?
- If you could live anywhere in the world (and didn’t have to worry about money, work or family attachment) where would it be and why?
- Do you have any rituals? If so, what’s your favorite ritual (habit with intent) and why?
- What’s at the top of your sex-bucket list?
- What are four things you couldn’t live without?
- What would you like to let go of?
- Can you describe your bravest moment?
- What’s the most significant thing you learned about yourself in 2019?
- What are three things you’d like to manifest in 2020?
Feel free to respond, but no pressure! If you do, please tag me so I can read your responses.
With love ❤