I think that ship has sailed, and I’m not looking back :)
I agree with you, that sometimes ‘we’ get carried away and overtaken wit passion etc—but in this case, he still had a chance to reciprocate after he’d finished, and he acted like that was not an option, and simply said sorry… That’s BS! There’s no need for the woman to reach orgasm first necessarily, but if, as a guy, you know that you’ll be spent after and not able to continue in any way, and leave your partner hanging, feeling super turned on and frustrated—then you better learn some impulse control.
Imagine if you went home with a woman, you had sex, she came first, and the moment she did, she disengaged, rolled over and yawned—leaving you at the cusp of orgasm. “Sorry dude, you were just my human dildo for the night, mind if I crash?”.
And frankly, after having experience with dominant men/guys from the kink and BDSM scene who can keep ‘the action’ going for several hours without giving into their own urge to ejaculate, this experience made me realize that I’m sticking with the ‘sex-nerds’ from now on :D