I absolutely agree, and it also has so much to do with intention and how it’s handled.
Someone giving unsolicited requests as if they’re ordering a meal feels disrespectful! On the contrary, I find it really hot when I ask my lover if they have any request for our date, and they suggest something they’ve seen me in before, or ‘I really love it when you wear that red lipstick’… It can give the whole idea of suggesting or requesting an erotic spin that builds anticipation. I do not take grooming or body hair requests though — my grooming is for me, not them! 👏👏👏