Thank you for reading and responding.
Perhaps I misunderstand you, but I don’t see anything “repulsive and toxic” about enjoying sex and your own sexuality, and choosing to have as many (or as few) sex partners as you wish.
What’s toxic, on the other hand, is shaming people for their preferences or demanding that women live by different standards than men, disregarding that their individual sexualities and needs.
Family therapists, sex educators, writers and practicing polyamorists, Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy, like any other serious authors, probably didn't simply write their book “out of the goodness of their hearts”.
They also didn’t just “think of it first” and pull something out of thin air to coerce, or “make women”, (or anyone) think anything…
Like the good writers and businesswomen they are, they distilled knowledge and wisdom from decades of living as non-monogamists; something they’re passionate and experienced with, and shared their truths in a book that became the go-to resource for people curious about ethical non-monogamy.
Clearly, their content resonated: Now, on its third edition and translated into a handful of languages, I can only imagine the authors are thrilled to have influenced and helped millions of people through this—and the dozen other books, articles, and films they’ve published through their careers. I’m sure they’re also stoked to have made a decent living doing it as well—as they should be!
I personally love seeing strong women do their thing and speak their minds, regardless of the harassment and hate they might receive doing it.
All the best,