Dear Sarah, thank you so much for reading and responding! I’m so sorry for what you had to go through and it’s heartbreaking to hear of women coming forward and not being believed.
I stand with survivors of (all forms of) abuse with unwavering support and without questions asked. I’d love to live in a world where this is the default reaction. Unfortunately, as you know from your own experience, it isn’t.
I appreciate your opinions and am taking them in—reading over your answer multiple times.
I admit I don’t have the answers and I don’t know how to ‘attack’ these issues much of the time. The Survivor scandal that Gillian refers to in her article We Were All Betrayed By Two Women on the TV Show ‘Survivor’ shows two women who betrayed our trust and contributed to making it less safe for other women to come out. In one way, it’s important that these things are brought to our attention, so we can talk about them—on the other hand, it’s dangerous because it gives doubters yet another excuse to say “see, there are women who lie”. In this way, they compromise the credibility of survivors everywhere, and in my opinion, they are the ones validating the trope of the woman “crying wolf”…
I’d love to discuss more and working on educating myself further. All I do know is that I want my daughter to grow up in a world where male aggression and violence towards women is the exception and not the rule, as it is now.